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Monday, November 5, 2012

Application to Date?

The HWAT blog post from 10/30/12 reminded me of something I created for suitors for my daughter. I told my daughter that she could start dating at 15 years of age and now that she has reached that age, we are terrified. My coworker found an application for a boyfriend online and my daughter gave it to a boy who wanted to date her.  He was brave enough to fill out the application. 

For laughs, I actually wrote this letter in response but did not have the heart to give it to him. My daughters are so valuable to me that I will not require a bride price when either of them get married. If I had to decide on a bride price for my daughter, it would be close to something like this. Enjoy – please remember this is for laughs so read it light heartedly.

Thank you for your application for permission to date my daughter. Your application has been DENIED.
  • We will not keep your application in our files.
  • Please feel free to re-apply after you have met the following criteria:
  • Graduated from an accredited institution with a bachelor’s degree and a GPA of 3.7 or better
  • Graduated from an accredited institution in a respectable field
  • Generating an annual income of $75,000 or more in a job that is not illegal
  • Are in generally good health (please provide form from doctor)
  • Have gained a deep respect for your mother and sisters

If you are traditional Hmong we would require a bride-price for the following expenses:
  • Grade school activities                       $ 10,000
  • Camps and fun activities                    $   5,000
  • Braces for her perfect smile               $   6,000
  • Ivy league college education              $200,000 

If you have any questions regarding the application process or your DENIAL status, don’t contact us. Thank you and best of luck to you.


  1. Lol funny! As she is only 15, the first reason is a concern, I know what you meant by it but it is might be weird to think that some who has reached that qualification would be much older and it would be illegal to date your 15 year old. But I do support your decision to not ask for a bride price as I would hope my parents support me when I get marry and understand why I won't let them put a price on me.

  2. What would the bride price be if you are not traditional Hmong?