By Blia Yang
I never approved of any Hmong person going overseas to marry
someone. I always believed that those marriages were just a way for people to
come to America. I also believed that people who married ib tug neeg nyob
tebchaws vam meej no xav thiab ntshaw lub neej vim txoj kev muaj nyiaj ntxiag
xwb. Cov neeg nyob tim ub lam txias nyiaj yeej tsis muaj kev hlub kiag. The
thought of international marriages only brought out negative thoughts. Why
would someone want to marry overseas when they can find someone who is educated
and knows the language to start out a better life? Luag tej yeej hais tias ua
li cas yus xav yug ib tug neeg es tsis
paub ntawb paub ntawv. Tsis yog hais tias yus ruam thiab tsis zoo nkauj es
thiaj nrhiav tsis tau ib tug nyob tebchaws Ameliska no. I used to believe in
all of that. But now my view has changed because I am part of it.
I hesitated to tell my story because I’m scared of what
others might think. I was afraid to be judged the way I used to judge others. But
after much thought I decided I needed to share my story. I was once in your
position.
In 2009 I just graduated from U of M in elementary education
and was about to pursue a masters program in curriculum and instruction. My
parents suggested I take a break and travel to Laos to visit relatives that I
have never met before and to finally see the land they have been talking about.
We arrived just in time for the Hmong New Year in Xieng Khouang. The land was
beautiful. The scenery and mountains were breathtaking! The breeze was not like
any others. Huab cua txias zias laj siab tshaj plaws yuav tsis muaj dabtsi los
piv tau.
I met Nhia during the Hmong New Year. We threw a few balls,
smiled and walked around the field. I actually treated him to a bowl of pho. He
showed me places around town and some tourist sites. I loved everything about
him including txoj kev hais lus qab zib. I love the way he respected elders. I
loved the way he talked to his parents. I even loved the way he chopped meat. He
was attending law school. He was ambitious. He knew where he was going in life
without anyone telling him how to get there. Before I knew it I was falling in
love with this guy. Nws tsis hau yuam yeeb, tsis quav cawv thiab tsis twv nyiaj
txiag. Tsis tag li ntawv thiab nws paub txhoov tau hau npua.
We shared a lot of memories together. In no time he asked me
to marry him. I said no. It was too soon. We had only known each other for a
month. He asked me again, I said no. For me going to Laos and meeting him was just
a blissful vacation. By the fifth time he asked me to marry him I finally
thought long and hard about it. I agreed to get engaged.
Many people strongly disapproved the engagement when I
announced it. I was lectured by many about the “mistake” I was about to make. Feelings
were hurt all around. But I was lucky to have my parents by my side and I
received their blessing.
When my month long vacation was over I came home to
Minneapolis and left Nhia behind. Because it was an engagement I was in no rush
to get him here. In the back of my mind I also believed that Laos was a country
where one could fall in love easily. So, I wanted to see if my feelings were
still there. We continued to stay connected through Skype, emails, and numerous
phone calls. My feelings and love did
not change one bit. In fact, I only grew to love him more.
After a good five to six months I started the paper work. Fast-forward
another fives months I went back to Laos and we both spent time together. We
stayed in Vientiane and he totally serenaded me. We decided to take the bus to
Luang Prabang. I enjoyed being with him on the long bus ride, the time we were
together overlooking the spring water, and the night shopping. I enjoyed being
sick to my stomach because of the food poisoning and he took care of me. What I
loved the most was our motorcycle rides. We still reminisce about many of these
memories today.
In no time my husband was here despite the fact that there
was a winter storm in Minneapolis and he was stuck overnight in Atlanta, GA.
When he finally arrived in Minnesota he touched snow for the very first time!
Muaj ib qho kuv ntshai tshaj plaws thaum nws tuaj txog yog
txoj kev thuam ntawm tib neeg pej xeem. But I learned to not let that get to me
because in the end they are not the people who matter most to me. We gained the
love from the ones that disapproved of us.
I would love to assume that they finally see what I saw in him. He’s a
great man. He’s respectful.
I understand the negative thoughts and views of international
marriages. But every story is different. I want to thank my Hmoob Yaj (7-13-3)
side of the family, kuv cov neej tsa, for being so supportive and for loving me
so much along with my husband. Trust me,
you don’t know how supportive they were. One relative sang us a song and
another one played a musical instrument to bond our love stronger. The list
goes on. I also want to thank my husband’s pog and yawg (tij yug, kwv yug) that welcomed us with open
arms.
I loved reading this story! It really opened my eyes to the possibilities in this world. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you and Nhia the best in the world.
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